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When the author started his
conscious journey to explore creativity through organizational
creativity, he had no understanding or awareness that he would be
lead to explore the creative aspects of sexuality and the role sex
actually plays in our creative endeavors. In fact, sexuality and
understanding the role of sex in relation to creativity was the
farthest things from the author’s mind when he started his journey.
However, next to the individual’s concept of God, the individuals
concepts about sex and sexuality and how they choose to engage in
sex and/or sexuality has a tremendous impact on their creative power
and creative abilities. As the author described in the discussion “In
a Box,” our concepts of God and sex/sexuality are what keeps us
from punching out of the box to access the depth and breadth of our
creative power and creative ability.
The issue of sex and sexuality did not raise its head directly. It
started with the observation of a friend’s life, a question to be
answered, a
dream-meditation vision and
an exploration into exactly what the dream-meditation vision
revealed.
Background - a friend’s life
While on his
conscious journey to explore creativity, just around the time
the author experienced the
Ultimate Accident, he was faced with having to help
a
friend move his personal belongings. The friend was separating
from his spouse after about twenty years of marriage. What was
curious about this situation was that all the conscious reasons that
were being given as to why they were separating did not seem to make
sense. They may have been valid reasons, but they seemed the excuse
or occasion than the real reason. Something much deeper seemed to
lie behind the separation. Yet, if you would talk to either of the
individuals about what was happening, neither individual seemed to
understand there was a much deeper reason for what was happening.
Or, if they did, they didn’t want to share it. Observation of the
situation seemed to indicate neither saw the much deeper reason.
What helped focus the author’s attention on what was happening was
that as they were moving the friend’s belongings, the friend said to
the author, “This doesn’t have to happen to you.” The friend was
referring the fact that he was separating from his spouse and the
author did not have to do so. That statement, of course, puzzled the
author. But the awareness of that statement became important in that
there were several things the author chose to do in his life because
of that awareness of that statement. However, some time later when
the author asked the friend about why he made the statement, the
friend denied ever making it. It was as though the statement was
made by a part of the friend’s psychic of which the friend was not
aware.
As said else where the author always tended to look for the root
cause that gave rise to the situation he was observing. Although the
author never learned all the private details, there were a few
things that he knew about the situation that caused him to ask what
he thought was a rhetorical question about the relationships between
people and why people needed to separate. In particular, the
statement made by the friend that “This doesn’t have to happen to
you,” prompted the author to want to know, “what doesn’t have to
happen to me- what exactly am I observing here?” This question about
relationships and why people separate ultimately provided some very
important understanding about the creative and energetic aspects
of sexuality. But how that understanding arose is a story unto
itself.
To understand the energetic aspects as to what the author was
observing, it is appropriate to add a few more details. The friend
was raised in a relatively traditional religious and social way and
by all standards, his life was extremely successful. However, around
middle age, because of the number of people with whom he interacted
in life, he began to see there may be some alternative ways to live
life. Some of these alternative ways seem to provide some
individuals with a much more fulfilling and rewarding life. Some of
these alternatives could be classified as New Age, where as many of
them were simply modern applications of ancient spiritual and/or
mystical traditions. In any case, they were more mystical based than
scientific based. The friend began to explore some of these
alternative paths. In many ways this individual was trying to find
that
bridge between the scientific and the mystical.
What is clear in hindsight when viewed from a
creativity perspective are two things. One was that by studying
and embracing alternative thinking, the friend was initiating
choices that would cause his life to be recreated, if he surrendered
to the changes. That in turn, would cause a rearrangement of the
individuals in his life.
Quite simply, from a creativity perspective, energy can neither be
created or destroyed, only transformed. All the energy of Creation
already exists in an existing form or flowing into form. If
something new is to be created, some of the existing from or flow of
energy needs to be sacrificed for the new Creation. To recreate
oneself inevitably causes a rearrangement of our life. The magnitude
of the rearrangement depends on the magnitude of the recreation we
undertake. The other was that the friend was only accessing a part
of his being that was never fully and adequately expressed.
Expression of this aspect was necessary for him to have the
experiences he
incarnated to have as reflected in the
intention for our life that we each carry. In many ways what was
happening had little to do with the particular individuals involved.
What was happening was more related to what experiences the
individuals’ creative spirit incarnated to have.
In any case, this friend’s spouse did not share such mystical
interests. She referred to many of these practices as “Whoo whoo
practices.” She did not seem the least bit interested in the new
interest which was unfolding in her spouse. Yet, she in no way tried
to stop or prevent his exploration of these more mystical traditions
and practices. She saw them as harmless and seemed to believe they
had no real power.
In working with this friend, it was clear this fiend had certain
mystical abilities. These abilities were developing and unfolding
the more this individual explored the mystical traditions. For a
while you could say this friend sort of acted as a guiding light. He
never became the author’s teacher but he did provide some avenues
for the author to explore the more mystical aspects of creativity.
In time, this friend was becoming more and more focused on finding a
way to make some of the information and understanding he was
accessing available to a greater number of people. Exactly how he
would do that was uncertain, but he knew he wanted to create
something to share what we has learning. In time this friend
introduced the author to a lady and said, “She is going to provide
the money for my work” such that the work could somehow go into the
world. This particular lady and her husband seemed to be relatively
wealthy and they were playing a major role helping this friend
address the mystical aspects of Creation. So the author was not
surprised at this turn of events. It seemed to make sense since this
lady and her husband believed in what this friend was trying to
create.
Over the years, much like a square dance, the dancers rearranged
themselves according to the music that the Universe was playing. The
friend separated from his spouse and ended up marrying the lady who
was going to provide the money for his work. Yet, what the author
come to understand is that the lady, although essentially
financially independent, did not have the magnitude of wealth to
finance what the friend wanted to create. Rather she provided the
energy and space for the friend to do what he needed to do. She was
able to fuel his new found passion. That was something is first wife
seemed unable to provide. The first wife could not provide the
“currency” the individual needed to create what he desired. This
takes us back to two thing. One is to the statement, “This doesn’t
have to happen to you.” The second is how the mind characterizes
what it experiences based on its past such that one needs to look to
the metaphoric nature of the intuitive insights that mind provides,
including its desire for sex.
What needs to be emphasized about the statement, ‘This doesn’t have
to happen to you” is that the Universe is magical enough to
rearrange itself such that each of us can be free to express the
truth within our being if we look for such a way. No one needs to
separate from any one. What stands in the way is our own mind and
the mind of others. Rather than creating the space and allowing the
individual’s in our life to do what they need to do, and they in
turn giving us space to do what we need to do, we tend to want to
control what happens. We create boundaries and limitations on others
to satisfy our needs as opposed to theirs. When, and if, we no
longer desire to deny the true expression of who and what we are, we
do need to separate from many of those in our life who do not give
us the space and freedom to express ourselves. We separate not
because we have to do so, but we do not become creative enough to
find a way to do otherwise. There is no judgment here on this
statement. It is just that some ways are easier than others. In many
ways it was the experiences of this friend, and with this friend,
that made the author create the
opening prayer for the author to start any future creative
endeavors with others. In many ways it was the open prayer for the
author’s life work. The prayer specifically addresses the fact that
when engaged in creative endeavors, there will be those in our life
who see us become different and the urge to separate will be there.
The other things that needs to be addressed is the metaphoric nature
of what mind provides, especially our intuitive insights. Mind only
knows what it has experienced. Any energy it senses will be
characterized based on that past. Hence, as discussed under the
topic of
intuitive guidance, we need to look at the direction mind
provides and not necessarily take the literal interpretation. As in
the case here, the author’s friend saw this lady supplying the money
for what he desired to create. Yet money is the medium of exchange
we use in exchange of the life energy we expend in doing a task or
job for which we get paid. This lady entered this individual’s life
to give him the space and
call forth his creative spirit and passion to create what he
desired. That is, she gave him the currency he would need to build
his dream. As described in the
discussion on our creative spirit, our creative spirit must be
called forth by another. When a creative spirit is called
forth and a safe space is made available for it to come out, we
access the passion.We feel and experience the freedom of our
creative spirit to create and the flow of its energy as passion and
the passion to create.
Passion, and the energy to create, in turn brings up the question of
sexuality and what exactly is the relationship between sexuality and
creativity. Many will find that as they become more creative about
what they feel is close to their heart, they feel more sexual. In
this regard, many have a passion to create that does not depend on
any other particular individual in their life. However, many find
the passion to create arises in their life as a result of an
individual with whom they find somewhat sexually attractive. It is
as though one needs a
muse to call forth the creative passion. As discussed above
someone is needed to call forth the creative spirit and there will
be a passion to create as that creative spirit finds itself free
to play. Sometimes that passion enthuses one’s entire being and
gives rise to sexual feelings. But what exactly is the role of
sexuality and creativity. The question in the author’s mind was how
is sexuality related to what he saw happening in his friend’s life,
if anything. In watching what happened to his friend, he new he had
to come to some understanding about sexuality and creativity.
What the author was to discover about creativity and sexuality
surprised him and it all started with the desire to understand why
his friend had to separate from his wife. The seed that would
catalyze the exploration to get the answer to the authors question
started with a
dream-meditation vision on sexuality he received several months
later. In understanding that dream-meditation vision, he was able to
see situations which paralleled his friend’s situation in the lives
of others and to know what to expect and how to work with the
individuals involved. In particular, how to advise them about
individuals who may leave their life and why, when they choose to
recreate an aspect of their life. What was unknown to the author at
the time was that in desiring to look at the reason for the
separation that was occurring in his friend’s life, he was opening
the door to look at separation at a much deeper level. That is, why
so many live life feeling separated from the
source/Source of their own being and from the inherent unlimited
creative power and ability available to them.
The awareness that has been gained about sexuality and our
creativity has been captured on the web site “Creative
Sexuality.”
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